‘My Transgender Summer’ has me asking a lot of questions. Most of these questions end with a shake of my head, a mumble then a frustrated wail of ‘I don’t get it.’
I am an open-minded individual but for the life of me I cannot get my head around transgenderness. Please someone help me?
This is clearly my failing as a human to understand. People with a lot more smarts than me see it as a an actual real issue and the NHS wouldn’t go about spending £50, 000 chopping and inverting willies unless they actually believed that it would help someone improve their quality of life.
However this programme and the transgender people I know have not helped me. And here is why:
1.) How on earth do people know what it is like to be the other gender, how can they possibly have any idea what it is like to have a completely different body to the extent that it is all they desire. I could understand if the brain was pumping testosterone around a lady body like there was no tomorrow. But to look at a thing, say you desire that thing, then endeavour to get that thing. Is that not just glorified clothes shopping?
2.) An old friend of the family went through the change a few years ago and the way she talked about her new life as a woman sounded a little unhealthy in my humble ears. It was all shopping and coffee and ladies who lunch.
I have yet to find a woman who does this.
Even on the programme I find the youngest one who has the bleach blonde hair, wants the massive boobs is looking to play a caricature of being a lady. If I had met a transgender person who was really mumsy or resembled any woman I know I would probably understand but they seem to want to achieve this other, a heightened version of femininity.
3.) The girl to boys seem to be transfixed on getting hair. ‘I must have more hair’ ‘I am jealous of his beard’ etc. NO ONE WANTS HAIR ON THEIR FACE, JUST TO SHAVE IT OFF AGAIN EVERY OTHER DAY.
4.) I asked a former psychiatric nurse her thoughts on the matter. What she found was that the transgender people she met had little interest in the day to day life of being the opposite gender but they had set the operation as a life goal, as a thing they must have above all others. Kind of like achievement points?
I can’t help but feel like a hypocrite. If someone were to write a similar piece about how they don’t understand homosexuality, I would be up in arms! ‘Why don’t you understand?YOU FOOL!’ I would yell. But then again in my head homosexual and transgender people, although normally lumped in as one, are very different. My love of the same-sex is part chemical, part social conditioning and part trial and error where as the need to be the opposite sex is a full-blown pump my body full of chemicals, intensive surgery, life changing decision making process.
But when all is said and done, as long as fully grown up adults are making decisions that don’t hurt anyone else who am I to say anything?